setting the date
these last few weeks, we've come to a decision on when we will embark on the next chapter of our lives -- we are getting hitched, early January if all goes to plan. i won't write the plans until all is finalized and certain, but we went to inspect some possible venues last week, and some has left a favorable impression on us.
the fact that it will be a surprise small wedding, which our immediate families are also clueless of, will (i presume) be a growing problem later on down the track involving a lot of extended family members, acquaintances and connections who won't be invited. however, it is our own choice to have a small private wedding instead of a fully blown one which throughout our lives we both felt obligated to have. but the fact that it's a surprise wedding meant that our families won't be blamed for not inviting those whom they feel obligated to invite. we will take all the criticisms and blame.
the reason why i say it now is that deciding on this has taken a load off of my mind, not to mention that this will (in my mind at least) ease the tension everywhere, with everyone; i've felt like, for a while now, the people that really know us have been sort of keeping quiet and holding their breaths around us, wondering what we're going to do next. on another note: not everyone is going to understand our choice, but i'm not going to worry about that. we gotta live our lives, and it's our lives, isn't it?
i know, i know -- it's not as simple as that, and our decision-making process hasn't been that clear-cut in my own mind either. but in the end, the choices we make have to make us happy -- i.e. we better well darn be sure it's what we want, and that we won't regret it. that is all. yes, it is our choice, and yes, we are happy with it.
knowing that our families will back us 100% no matter what is more important and valuable than anything else. so, you see... we have more to be thankful for than anyone we know right now.
the fact that it will be a surprise small wedding, which our immediate families are also clueless of, will (i presume) be a growing problem later on down the track involving a lot of extended family members, acquaintances and connections who won't be invited. however, it is our own choice to have a small private wedding instead of a fully blown one which throughout our lives we both felt obligated to have. but the fact that it's a surprise wedding meant that our families won't be blamed for not inviting those whom they feel obligated to invite. we will take all the criticisms and blame.
the reason why i say it now is that deciding on this has taken a load off of my mind, not to mention that this will (in my mind at least) ease the tension everywhere, with everyone; i've felt like, for a while now, the people that really know us have been sort of keeping quiet and holding their breaths around us, wondering what we're going to do next. on another note: not everyone is going to understand our choice, but i'm not going to worry about that. we gotta live our lives, and it's our lives, isn't it?
i know, i know -- it's not as simple as that, and our decision-making process hasn't been that clear-cut in my own mind either. but in the end, the choices we make have to make us happy -- i.e. we better well darn be sure it's what we want, and that we won't regret it. that is all. yes, it is our choice, and yes, we are happy with it.
knowing that our families will back us 100% no matter what is more important and valuable than anything else. so, you see... we have more to be thankful for than anyone we know right now.
